Feral Faun wrote in his book Feral Revolution:
The dependency of social individuals is not the same as the biological dependency of infants. Biological dependency ends once the child achieves adequate mobility and hand-and-eye coordination (in about five years). But in those five years, the social relationships of the family repress children’s desires, instill fear of the world into them and so submerge the potential for full, free, creative individuality beneath the layers of armoring which are the social individual, beneath the psychic dependency which makes us cling desperately to each other while we despise each other. All social relationships have their basis in the incompleteness produced by the repression of our passions and desires. Their basis is our need for each other, not our desire for each other. We are using each other. So every social relationship is an employer/employee relationship, which is why they seem always, to one extent or another, to become adversarial — whether through joking put-downs, bickering or full-fledged fighting. How can we help but despise those we use and hate those who use us?
This reminds me of Steinbeck’s Of Mice and Men, when the character Slim says to George and Lennie, “Maybe ever’body in the whole damn world is scared of each other.” Maybe, everyone is disconnected from everybody by the artificial symbolic mediation of domestication imposed by Power. From birth we are thrust into the concentration camp poked, prodded, and loved by our domesticated overseers who are imprinted with fear that their possession, the thing will not be as they have been shown have to to survive in the camp. The story they were taught they teach to this little thing, they teach disconnection, to fear. This fear is to prepare them for the imprinting of life in the camp the constriction, the mediation of life through alien filters, and the seduction of submission. We trained to fear each other, the layers of overseers; parents, teachers, police, neighbors, culture, ideologies, fear them and those above us. We are taught to submit, respect those with Power, but it is Power over us we are taught to fear, the consequences of non-compliance with those rule and roles given us. Selves are imprinted reflecting the fragmentation of life of separation from the present, the immediate. The self of the employee, the slave, the underling. Connection reduced to use. What good are you if you have no use? What kind of person are you if you have useless? Can we think of anything more humiliating then being judged solely on of one can be used? Every so-called disabled thing knows they are a question mark of usage and every able useful thing knows they are only as useful as they are for the moment, everyone can be replaced (except the masters of course). I think most think this is a form of love, to help people be of use, to be successful in the camp, to be a good employee and aspire to the a master over others so they can be a more useful thing to other more powerful masters. The yuppies are alive and well, in China. There is no love here in the camp, but we are aware of the possibility of loving, moving, and living. We muse at it like a fairy tale and then play off it like a fetish because we have to navigate and traverse society, which means we have to follow the prescribed perimeters set by the masters or those consequences are imposed and those always and mean always hurt bad. But then again we are just things to them and to each other, things to use and play with. Connections is just another myth like love. Your society uses you until you are useless and discards you like toilet paper, we are things to society; Slim was right we are all afraid of each other because we all want power over each other and only relate in the mediated way of use, but remember Elmo Loves You.